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High Conflict Child Custody Battles Chico CA

I recently received a question from a mother of an 11 month old daughter. She wanted some advice about age appropriate visitation and how to handle false allegations that had involved CPS. Here is my reply to her.

Gregory John Brislain
250 VALLOMBROSA AVE STE 125
CHICO, CA
Specialties
Family, Child Custody, Child Support, Juvenile, Criminal Defense
Education
University of California at Davis School of Law,University of California - Davis
State Licensing
California

O'Neil G Dennis
(530) 343-1010
1339 Esplanade
Chico, CA
Specialties
Family, Criminal Defense, DUI, Adoption, Alimony, Juvenile, Child Custody, Child Support, Guardianship, Divorce, Domestic Violence
Education
San Francisco Law Sch,Univ of the West Indies
State Licensing
California

Richard Sanford Trugman
9200 W SUNSET BLVD
WEST HOLLYWOOD, CA
 
Gregory Paul Benton
(626) 963-2474
220 S Glendora Ave Ste H
Glendora, CA
Specialties
Family, Child Custody, Child Support, Divorce, Probate
Education
Trinity Law School,Fuller Seminary,Northwest Coll,Simpson College
State Licensing
California

Gary Steven Glauser
222 W MADISON AVE
EL CAJON, CA
Specialties
Family, Divorce, Child Custody, Child Support, Adoption
Education
Thomas Jefferson School of Law,Brigham Young University
State Licensing
California

Chad William Sallade
(530) 897-3700
383 Connors Ct Ste E
Chico, CA
Specialties
Criminal Defense, Family, Child Custody, Divorce
Education
CAL Northern SOL,California St Univ Chico
State Licensing
California

Norman Jenkins Ryker III
1074 EAST AVE STE C
CHICO, CA
Specialties
Child Support, Child Custody, Divorce, Family
Education
University of Washington School of Law,Univ of California Santa Barbara
State Licensing
California

Brandy Estelle
(310) 300-4043
9595 Wilshire Blvd #900
Beverly Hills, CA
Specialties
Child Custody, Child Support, Contracts, Criminal Defense, Domestic Violence, Divorce, Estate Planning, Family, Guardianship, Immigration, Juvenile, Landlord & Tenant, Prenuptials, Power Of Attorney, Probate, Real Estate, Trusts, Uncontested Divorce, Wills, Violent Crime
Education
Loyola Law School,Univ of California Berkeley
State Licensing
California

Michael Roger Schneider
(951) 686-1010
4121 MISSION INN AVE
RIVERSIDE, CA
 
Matthew Jacob Rudy
(408) 947-7600
1570 The Alameda, Ste 101
San Jose, CA
Specialties
Family, Child Custody, Child Support, Alimony, Divorce
Education
Santa Clara University School of Law,Fordham University,Fordham University
State Licensing
California

High Conflict Child Custody Battles

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High Conflict Child Custody – Advice About Age Appropriate Visitation and False Allegations

Author: E Brooks

I recently received a question from a mother of an 11 month old daughter. She wanted some advice about age appropriate visitation and how to handle false allegations that had involved CPS. Here is my reply to her.

I am sorry to hear that you are part of a high conflict custody battle.

I will answer the question about false allegations first. Yes, it happens far too often. In my experience it happens when things are going your way. It is a way for the other parent to attempt to gain the upper hand. I understand it is wrong, stressful, and painful. Make sure that the when CPS contacts you, that you mention you ask them the question, "did he tell you we are in a custody battle?". Don't add anything else. Let CPS figure it out themselves. They cannot tell you who called or give you any information but ask them what they will recommend for the case status. They should let you know that they are closing the case as "unfounded".

DO NOT mention anything about this to the other parent. You now have a clean bill of health from CPS. This is definitely in your favor. DO NOT bring this up until you go to evaluation. Never leak a word from your lips. He will now be wondering what happened.

CPS will not talk to him about the case except to interview him about what he knows.

The reason you keep this to yourself is, the evaluator has access to CPS records. They will know the accusation was made and that it was investigated and found to be unfounded. This will undermine his credibility forever. It will follow him and benefit you forever.

Now, let's talk about visitation.

If you do not have a temporary custody order, the pattern you set now will likely be the pattern that gets adopted. If you do have an order and you let the pattern change, he will have cause to go back and ask for that pattern permanently.

I don't know if you are still going to court or not. If you are I suggest that you work with the mediator or evaluator (separately if needed) and suggest the current pattern with an automatic modification to overnights when your daughter reaches a certain age (18 months?).

I lean towards equal visitation and overnights (except in extreme circumstances). If you prepare your order to include these overnights you will do a lot for your daughter.

Finally a bit of advice. Avoid the conflict. Minimize drop off and pickups so that you can avoid each other. Learn about parallel parenting and suggest he do the same. Exchange email instead of phone calls. The less contact, the less conflict. The less conflict the more your daughter benefits.

About the Author:

Ed Brooks knows firsthand how painful a High Conflict Child Custody battle can be. Ed has created a site where parents can get advice on how to handle all aspects of a high conflict Child Custody battle. If you want to learn more about handling False Allegations issues you can find it here.

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