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High Conflict Child Custody Battles Fresno CA

I recently received a question from a mother of an 11 month old daughter. She wanted some advice about age appropriate visitation and how to handle false allegations that had involved CPS. Here is my reply to her.

Antoinette Misiaszek Lerandeau
(559) 230-2600
777 W SHAW AVE
FRESNO, CA
Specialties
Family, Adoption, Alimony, Appeals, Child Custody, Child Support, Divorce, Domestic Violence
Education
Golden Gate University School of Law,Stanford University
State Licensing
California

John Morton McDaniel
1318 E SHAW AVE STE 180
FRESNO, CA
Specialties
Family, Divorce, Child Custody, Domestic Violence
Education
Stanford University,Santa Clara University School of Law
State Licensing
California

Jennifer Lee Byers
(559) 230-2600
265 East River Park Circle, Suite 360
Fresno, CA
Specialties
Child Custody, Divorce, Family, Child Support, Domestic Violence
Education
San Joaquin College of Law,California State University, Fresno
State Licensing
California

Roberta Lee Taylor
16195 SISKIYOU RD STE 130
APPLE VALLEY, CA
Specialties
Family, Divorce, Child Custody, Alimony, Child Support
Education
Western State University College of Law,University of Missouri, Kansas City
State Licensing
California

Patricia Anne Mann
4195 E THOUSAND OAKS BLVD STE 109
WESTLAKE VILLAGE, CA
Specialties
Divorce, Child Custody, Child Support, Family, Wills
Education
Ventura College of Law
State Licensing
California

Paul Edward Lerandeau
777 W SHAW AVE
FRESNO, CA
Specialties
Divorce, Family, Appeals, Child Custody, Adoption, Alimony, Domestic Violence, Guardianship
Education
California State University, Fresno,Loyola Marymount University
State Licensing
California

Jerry F Childs
(559) 225-6769
776 E SHAW AVE STE 206
FRESNO, CA
Specialties
Real Estate, Administrative Law, Child Support, Child Custody, Divorce
Education
University of California,Loyola University School of Law
State Licensing
California

Rebecca Margaret Wilkins
(559) 230-2600
265 E RIVER PARK CIR STE 360
FRESNO, CA
Specialties
Family, Child Custody, Child Support, Divorce, Domestic Violence
Education
McGeorge School of Law, University of the Pacific,California State University, Fresno
State Licensing
California

Peter Gordon Milne
2142 WALNUT GROVE AVE
SAN JOSE, CA
Specialties
Adoption, Child Custody, Child Support, Divorce, Medical Malpractice
Education
Golden Gate University,Humboldt State University
State Licensing
California

Jeffrey Lee Hoffer
920 HAMPSHIRE RD STE A4
WESTLAKE VILLAGE, CA
Specialties
Divorce, Family, Child Support, Child Custody
Education
Pepperdine University School of Law,University of California - San Diego
State Licensing
California

High Conflict Child Custody Battles

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High Conflict Child Custody – Advice About Age Appropriate Visitation and False Allegations

Author: E Brooks

I recently received a question from a mother of an 11 month old daughter. She wanted some advice about age appropriate visitation and how to handle false allegations that had involved CPS. Here is my reply to her.

I am sorry to hear that you are part of a high conflict custody battle.

I will answer the question about false allegations first. Yes, it happens far too often. In my experience it happens when things are going your way. It is a way for the other parent to attempt to gain the upper hand. I understand it is wrong, stressful, and painful. Make sure that the when CPS contacts you, that you mention you ask them the question, "did he tell you we are in a custody battle?". Don't add anything else. Let CPS figure it out themselves. They cannot tell you who called or give you any information but ask them what they will recommend for the case status. They should let you know that they are closing the case as "unfounded".

DO NOT mention anything about this to the other parent. You now have a clean bill of health from CPS. This is definitely in your favor. DO NOT bring this up until you go to evaluation. Never leak a word from your lips. He will now be wondering what happened.

CPS will not talk to him about the case except to interview him about what he knows.

The reason you keep this to yourself is, the evaluator has access to CPS records. They will know the accusation was made and that it was investigated and found to be unfounded. This will undermine his credibility forever. It will follow him and benefit you forever.

Now, let's talk about visitation.

If you do not have a temporary custody order, the pattern you set now will likely be the pattern that gets adopted. If you do have an order and you let the pattern change, he will have cause to go back and ask for that pattern permanently.

I don't know if you are still going to court or not. If you are I suggest that you work with the mediator or evaluator (separately if needed) and suggest the current pattern with an automatic modification to overnights when your daughter reaches a certain age (18 months?).

I lean towards equal visitation and overnights (except in extreme circumstances). If you prepare your order to include these overnights you will do a lot for your daughter.

Finally a bit of advice. Avoid the conflict. Minimize drop off and pickups so that you can avoid each other. Learn about parallel parenting and suggest he do the same. Exchange email instead of phone calls. The less contact, the less conflict. The less conflict the more your daughter benefits.

About the Author:

Ed Brooks knows firsthand how painful a High Conflict Child Custody battle can be. Ed has created a site where parents can get advice on how to handle all aspects of a high conflict Child Custody battle. If you want to learn more about handling False Allegations issues you can find it here.

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