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High Conflict Child Custody Battles Modesto CA

I recently received a question from a mother of an 11 month old daughter. She wanted some advice about age appropriate visitation and how to handle false allegations that had involved CPS. Here is my reply to her.

Michael Andrew Goss
(209) 576-1871
1119 12TH ST
MODESTO, CA
Specialties
Family, Divorce, Child Custody, Child Support, Domestic Violence
Education
Humphreys College School of Law,Mankato State University
State Licensing
California

Sarah Jamaille Birmingham
1300 K ST
MODESTO, CA
Specialties
Litigation, Landlord & Tenant, Family, Divorce, Child Custody
Education
Santa Clara University,Santa Clara University School of Law
State Licensing
California

Lindsey Anne Robbins
(209) 529-0969
1301 K ST STE F
MODESTO, CA
Specialties
Family, Child Custody, Divorce, Child Support, Domestic Violence
Education
University of Wyoming,University of Wyoming,University of Wyoming
State Licensing
California

Travis Isaiah Krepelka
(408) 947-7600
1570 THE ALAMEDA STE 101
SAN JOSE, CA
 
Melinda Ann Manley
3405 N SEPULVEDA BLVD STE 200
MANHATTAN BEACH, CA
Specialties
Family, Child Custody, Child Support, Divorce, Prenuptials
Education
Whittier College of Law,Marymount Manhattan College
State Licensing
California

Hugh Eldridge Brereton
1300 K ST
MODESTO, CA
Specialties
Family, Divorce, Child Custody, Prenuptials, Child Support
Education
University of California, Berkeley,University of the Pacific, McGeorge School of Law
State Licensing
California

Mark Andrew Goss
(209) 576-1871
1119 12TH ST
MODESTO, CA
Specialties
Family, Divorce, Child Custody, Child Support, Domestic Violence
Education
University of the Pacific, McGeorge School of Law,California State University, Fresno
State Licensing
California

Norman Lee Anthony
80 GARDEN CT STE (EVEN Range 230 - 270) BLDG
MONTEREY, CA
Specialties
Child Support, Child Custody, Divorce, Family, Mediation
Education
University of California at Berkeley, Boalt Hall School of Law, Berkeley, California,University of t
State Licensing
California

James R. Jones
7755 CENTER AVE STE 1100
HUNTINGTON BEACH, CA
Specialties
Family, Child Custody, Prenuptials, Child Support
Education
Seattle University School of Law,University of Arizona
State Licensing
California

Robert Louis Gigliotti
4515 SHERMAN OAKS AVE
SHERMAN OAKS, CA
Specialties
Family, Child Custody, Child Support, Alimony
Education
University of La Verne,Loyola Marymount University
State Licensing
California

High Conflict Child Custody Battles

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High Conflict Child Custody – Advice About Age Appropriate Visitation and False Allegations

Author: E Brooks

I recently received a question from a mother of an 11 month old daughter. She wanted some advice about age appropriate visitation and how to handle false allegations that had involved CPS. Here is my reply to her.

I am sorry to hear that you are part of a high conflict custody battle.

I will answer the question about false allegations first. Yes, it happens far too often. In my experience it happens when things are going your way. It is a way for the other parent to attempt to gain the upper hand. I understand it is wrong, stressful, and painful. Make sure that the when CPS contacts you, that you mention you ask them the question, "did he tell you we are in a custody battle?". Don't add anything else. Let CPS figure it out themselves. They cannot tell you who called or give you any information but ask them what they will recommend for the case status. They should let you know that they are closing the case as "unfounded".

DO NOT mention anything about this to the other parent. You now have a clean bill of health from CPS. This is definitely in your favor. DO NOT bring this up until you go to evaluation. Never leak a word from your lips. He will now be wondering what happened.

CPS will not talk to him about the case except to interview him about what he knows.

The reason you keep this to yourself is, the evaluator has access to CPS records. They will know the accusation was made and that it was investigated and found to be unfounded. This will undermine his credibility forever. It will follow him and benefit you forever.

Now, let's talk about visitation.

If you do not have a temporary custody order, the pattern you set now will likely be the pattern that gets adopted. If you do have an order and you let the pattern change, he will have cause to go back and ask for that pattern permanently.

I don't know if you are still going to court or not. If you are I suggest that you work with the mediator or evaluator (separately if needed) and suggest the current pattern with an automatic modification to overnights when your daughter reaches a certain age (18 months?).

I lean towards equal visitation and overnights (except in extreme circumstances). If you prepare your order to include these overnights you will do a lot for your daughter.

Finally a bit of advice. Avoid the conflict. Minimize drop off and pickups so that you can avoid each other. Learn about parallel parenting and suggest he do the same. Exchange email instead of phone calls. The less contact, the less conflict. The less conflict the more your daughter benefits.

About the Author:

Ed Brooks knows firsthand how painful a High Conflict Child Custody battle can be. Ed has created a site where parents can get advice on how to handle all aspects of a high conflict Child Custody battle. If you want to learn more about handling False Allegations issues you can find it here.

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