High Conflict Child Custody Battles Sacramento CA

I recently received a question from a mother of an 11 month old daughter. She wanted some advice about age appropriate visitation and how to handle false allegations that had involved CPS. Here is my reply to her.

Jill L. Barr
1430 ALHAMBRA BLVD
SACRAMENTO, CA
Specialties
Family, Divorce, Child Custody, Child Support, Adoption
Education
McGeorge School of Law,Santa Clara University
State Licensing
California

Evelyn Ann Cox
(916) 955-5300
Po Box 189513
Sacramento, CA
Specialties
Child Abuse, Child Custody, Criminal Defense
Education
Univ of Washington,Rutgers Univ SOL
State Licensing
California

Lori D. Calvert
717 K ST STE 502
SACRAMENTO, CA
Specialties
Criminal Defense, Divorce, Child Custody, Mediation, Personal Injury
Education
University of the Pacific,California State University
State Licensing
California

Hal David Bartholomew
(916) 455-5200
4740 FOLSOM BLVD
SACRAMENTO, CA
Specialties
Divorce, Family, Prenuptials, Alimony, Mediation, Child Support, Child Custody, Uncontested Divorce, Adoption
Education
University of California - Davis,University of California, Davis, School of Law
State Licensing
California

Kevin Robert Morrison
(916) 923-2800
2151 River Plaza Dr Ste 105
Sacramento, CA
Specialties
Family, Child Support, Child Custody
Education
McGeorge SOL Univ of the Pacific,Univ of California Davis
State Licensing
California

Diane Elizabeth Wasznicky
4740 FOLSOM BLVD
SACRAMENTO, CA
Specialties
Child Custody, Family, Divorce
Education
University of California at Davis School of Law,University of Massachusetts, Amherst,University of M
State Licensing
California

Chandra Erin Miller
4740 FOLSOM BLVD
SACRAMENTO, CA
Specialties
Divorce, Child Custody, Alimony, Family, Domestic Violence, Child Support
Education
Colorado State University,Golden Gate University School of Law
State Licensing
California

Melanie Anne Snider
1225 8TH ST STE 450
SACRAMENTO, CA
Specialties
Family, Divorce, Child Support, Child Custody
Education
McGeorge School of Law
State Licensing
California

Deborah Louise Poole
1851 HERITAGE LN STE 281
SACRAMENTO, CA
 
Paul L. Brimberry
(916) 568-8272
WATER TOWER PLAZA 2100 NORTHROP AVE STE 100
SACRAMENTO, CA
 

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High Conflict Child Custody – Advice About Age Appropriate Visitation and False Allegations

Author: E Brooks

I recently received a question from a mother of an 11 month old daughter. She wanted some advice about age appropriate visitation and how to handle false allegations that had involved CPS. Here is my reply to her.

I am sorry to hear that you are part of a high conflict custody battle.

I will answer the question about false allegations first. Yes, it happens far too often. In my experience it happens when things are going your way. It is a way for the other parent to attempt to gain the upper hand. I understand it is wrong, stressful, and painful. Make sure that the when CPS contacts you, that you mention you ask them the question, "did he tell you we are in a custody battle?". Don't add anything else. Let CPS figure it out themselves. They cannot tell you who called or give you any information but ask them what they will recommend for the case status. They should let you know that they are closing the case as "unfounded".

DO NOT mention anything about this to the other parent. You now have a clean bill of health from CPS. This is definitely in your favor. DO NOT bring this up until you go to evaluation. Never leak a word from your lips. He will now be wondering what happened.

CPS will not talk to him about the case except to interview him about what he knows.

The reason you keep this to yourself is, the evaluator has access to CPS records. They will know the accusation was made and that it was investigated and found to be unfounded. This will undermine his credibility forever. It will follow him and benefit you forever.

Now, let's talk about visitation.

If you do not have a temporary custody order, the pattern you set now will likely be the pattern that gets adopted. If you do have an order and you let the pattern change, he will have cause to go back and ask for that pattern permanently.

I don't know if you are still going to court or not. If you are I suggest that you work with the mediator or evaluator (separately if needed) and suggest the current pattern with an automatic modification to overnights when your daughter reaches a certain age (18 months?).

I lean towards equal visitation and overnights (except in extreme circumstances). If you prepare your order to include these overnights you will do a lot for your daughter.

Finally a bit of advice. Avoid the conflict. Minimize drop off and pickups so that you can avoid each other. Learn about parallel parenting and suggest he do the same. Exchange email instead of phone calls. The less contact, the less conflict. The less conflict the more your daughter benefits.

About the Author:

Ed Brooks knows firsthand how painful a High Conflict Child Custody battle can be. Ed has created a site where parents can get advice on how to handle all aspects of a high conflict Child Custody battle. If you want to learn more about handling False Allegations issues you can find it here.

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