High Conflict Child Custody Battles Stockton CA

I recently received a question from a mother of an 11 month old daughter. She wanted some advice about age appropriate visitation and how to handle false allegations that had involved CPS. Here is my reply to her.

Patrick Curry
5637 N PERSHING AVE
STOCKTON, CA
Specialties
Family, Alimony, Child Support, Child Custody
Education
Humphrey's College of Law,Western Kentucky University
State Licensing
California

Daniel Conover Lambertson
7540 SHORELINE DR STE C
STOCKTON, CA
Specialties
Divorce, Arbitration, Child Custody
Education
McGeorge School of Law, University of the Pacific,University of the Pacific
State Licensing
California

Warren Erwin Haviland Jr
(619) 233-9500
750 B St., Suite 2370
San Diego, CA
Specialties
Family, Divorce, Child Custody, Child Support
Education
Vanderbilt University Law School,Wheaton College, Wheaton IL
State Licensing
California

James Lawrence Knox
323 W COURT ST STE 402
SAN BERNARDINO, CA
Specialties
Family, Divorce, Child Support, Child Custody, Criminal Defense
Education
California State University at San Bernardino,McGeorge School of Law, University of the Pacific
State Licensing
California

Chad William Sallade
(530) 897-3700
383 Connors Ct Ste E
Chico, CA
Specialties
Criminal Defense, Family, Child Custody, Divorce
Education
CAL Northern SOL,California St Univ Chico
State Licensing
California

Adam Rudolph Grace
11 S SAN JOAQUIN ST STE 609
STOCKTON, CA
Specialties
Family, Divorce, Child Custody, Child Support, Criminal Defense
State Licensing
California

Millicent Rudd Guiliani
1203 ADAM ST
TRACY, CA
 
Joseph Gerald Hirsch
(909) 945-0507
8005 Archibald Avenue
Rancho Cucamonga, CA
Specialties
General Practice, Workers Compensation, Family, Alimony, Child Custody, Car Accident, Child Support, Divorce, Chapter 7, Chapter 13
Education
Univ Of Laverne Col,Univ Of Illinois
State Licensing
California

Jesse Alphonso James
1519 E CHAPMAN AVE STE 349
FULLERTON, CA
Specialties
Family, Divorce, Child Custody, Child Support
Education
Glendale University,Law School,Glendale University,School of Law,University of Southern California
State Licensing
California

Stuart I MacKenzie
(510) 537-7200
22320 FOOTHILL BLVD STE 460
HAYWARD, CA
Specialties
Child Support, Child Custody, Divorce, Family
Education
Golden Gate University School of Law,University of California - Berkeley
State Licensing
California

High Conflict Child Custody Battles

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High Conflict Child Custody – Advice About Age Appropriate Visitation and False Allegations

Author: E Brooks

I recently received a question from a mother of an 11 month old daughter. She wanted some advice about age appropriate visitation and how to handle false allegations that had involved CPS. Here is my reply to her.

I am sorry to hear that you are part of a high conflict custody battle.

I will answer the question about false allegations first. Yes, it happens far too often. In my experience it happens when things are going your way. It is a way for the other parent to attempt to gain the upper hand. I understand it is wrong, stressful, and painful. Make sure that the when CPS contacts you, that you mention you ask them the question, "did he tell you we are in a custody battle?". Don't add anything else. Let CPS figure it out themselves. They cannot tell you who called or give you any information but ask them what they will recommend for the case status. They should let you know that they are closing the case as "unfounded".

DO NOT mention anything about this to the other parent. You now have a clean bill of health from CPS. This is definitely in your favor. DO NOT bring this up until you go to evaluation. Never leak a word from your lips. He will now be wondering what happened.

CPS will not talk to him about the case except to interview him about what he knows.

The reason you keep this to yourself is, the evaluator has access to CPS records. They will know the accusation was made and that it was investigated and found to be unfounded. This will undermine his credibility forever. It will follow him and benefit you forever.

Now, let's talk about visitation.

If you do not have a temporary custody order, the pattern you set now will likely be the pattern that gets adopted. If you do have an order and you let the pattern change, he will have cause to go back and ask for that pattern permanently.

I don't know if you are still going to court or not. If you are I suggest that you work with the mediator or evaluator (separately if needed) and suggest the current pattern with an automatic modification to overnights when your daughter reaches a certain age (18 months?).

I lean towards equal visitation and overnights (except in extreme circumstances). If you prepare your order to include these overnights you will do a lot for your daughter.

Finally a bit of advice. Avoid the conflict. Minimize drop off and pickups so that you can avoid each other. Learn about parallel parenting and suggest he do the same. Exchange email instead of phone calls. The less contact, the less conflict. The less conflict the more your daughter benefits.

About the Author:

Ed Brooks knows firsthand how painful a High Conflict Child Custody battle can be. Ed has created a site where parents can get advice on how to handle all aspects of a high conflict Child Custody battle. If you want to learn more about handling False Allegations issues you can find it here.

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