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How to Control Bullying At School
Bullying is not just a problem your child or your students has to deal with now. Studies have shown that bullying can leave deep emotional impact on a child even years after the bullying has happened. For instance, in a 2009 report, it has been said that bullying victims tend to have less control of their emotions, specifically anger. Bully victims are also less able to build trust and stable relationships with other people due to their previous experience with emotional harassment. Immediate effects of bullying include: being withdrawn, anxiety, depression, and adjustment problems. As reports have shown, some victims even commit suicide because of bullying!
But the bullying at school is more than just a problem for the victim. As studies and recent events have shown, the school and the bully are also affected by the act. An example: in 2007, parents of a student sued the school due to the injuries incurred to their child because of bullying. The parents won—and it cost the school four million dollars. The bullies, too, do not end up unscathed. Studies prove that bullies are usually just as scarred as their victims later on in life.
Needless to say, schools need to do something in order to stop the epidemic that is bullying.
Identifying the causes
School officials and parents should first know the causes of bullying in order to full understand why such an occurrence is happening.
In a nutshell, however, the cause is a combination of many factors, including the bully’s upbringing and the school’s social structure. Bullying is not only due to the lack of school safety. The social environment of a school makes it possible (even necessary for some) to become a bully. This has something to do with a child being more aggressive than assertive. Assertive students affirm their needs and wants. Aggressive students do everything in order to get these needs and wants. Bullying happens when an aggressive child realizes he can get anything he wants through force—and no one will stop him from doing so. In addition, bullies usually feel the need to gain approval of their peers. Bullying is usually seen as this thing that can gain other’s approval, either through admiration (as others admire strong peers) or through fear (using physical and verbal harassment).
The potential victims
Anyone can be a bully victim, but some are more likely victims than others. Obviously, bullies attack the easy, obvious targets: those who are different or those not part of the “mainstream.” In order to gain acceptance for their actions, bullies need to harass students who others will feel are deserving of the attack. Of course, no one deserves to be bullied. But in school, if you are not part of this “mainstream” or if you are different in anyway (for instance, you are of a different race than everyone else or you are gay or lesbian or you have gay parents), you are an easy target.
School safety tips and solutions
To initiate bully control, you need to start at school. If the school safety procedures and rules discourage the activities of the bully, needless to say, the bullying can significantly decrease. Basically, bullying is less likely to happen in smaller schools due to several reasons. First, smaller schools are easier to supervise and moderate, hence dispelling any attempts for bullying. As mentioned earlier, bullying happens when a student realizes his or her actions will not immediately or easily be reprimanded. But when the bully realizes that his actions can easily be detected and his actions will result to repercussions, he will think twice before the bullying someone.
Bully control in bigger schools is definitely harder. Here, the school should educate its staff and its faculty. One of the reasons why bullying happens is inadequate school staff not being able to detect bullies. Some school staff easily identify bullies, but they don’t do anything about it—or they don’t deal with it properly. Schools should educate their teachers on how to identify and how to act on bullying immediately after identification. When bullies know their actions are being monitored and will be reprimanded, they will cease their harassing actions. Also, a school should always be mindful of what they make students watch and read. One of the best school safety tips to prevent bullying: do not unknowingly encourage bullying by showing them materials wherein it is shown or implied that bullying can reap rewards for them.
Before anything else, the school has to accept that bullying is a reality—and it doesn’t need to be one. As a parent, inform your school officials right away if you think your child is a victim of a bully. Encourage other parents to do the same too. The overwhelming number of complaints will force the school to accept the fact that bullying is indeed happening and that something has to be done about it.
Bully control at home
But bully control best happens at home. Parents should always be mindful of their children. The best way to prevent bullying is to make sure there are no students who will become victims to these bullies. As a parent, you should teach your child to be assertive. An assertive child will less likely become a bully victim because he knows what should not be done to him and will have enough courage to fight for his rights if someone is doing something offensive. But children should never show his anger to the bully. Bullying will only aggravate when a child responds to the threats of the bully. Simply ignoring the bully would be sufficient enough to stop the threats of harassment.
Of course, simply ignoring the problem doesn’t really solve anything. Chances are, other less assertive students will fall victim to the aggressor. This is why parents should always voice their concerns if they feel their child is falling victim to bullying. Bullying is a serious problem and can cause irreparable damages to both the bully and his victim. The only way to prevent it is to do something about it right away.